But here, I want to do something else.
Right now I’m in the midst of a rebirth process or what Elizabeth Lesser calls the Phoenix Process. What does this mean? Well, it means I’m in the process of waiting and letting go of the old me. As I get clear in a particular area I do a little rebuilding. But mainly it’s living in uncertainty about what it is I want to do with this business and with my life. As I say on my Home page, most people will tell you about the bad times and then say how great everything is now. Some will actually walk you through a process they created out of what they went through, but that’s a refined process and not the raw experience. And it’s their process, not necessarily one that will work for you.
Lately I’ve come across a couple of people like Elizabeth Lesser who may have some guidelines for their process, but also share the long involved rawness of their story. They use their story to model for the rest of us what this rebirth thing looks and feels like. Brené Brown speaks about this in her latest book Rising Strong.
So, what I’m attempting here is to share my story, my process as it happens. This is just as much for me as it is for you. I’m hoping this will keep me awake and motivated to keep going. I’m hoping it won’t make me stay at the surface. I’m not one to share all and I will be selective, but I also know that I must go deep. I must truly allow myself to be in the underworld to learn as much as I can about myself so I have the tools to return reborn.
I hope by doing this you’ll be encouraged to allow your own Phoenix or rebirth process to unfold. It’s so important to honor the dark nights as well as the brilliant days. By going deep we can bring forth our strengths and learn to accept our weaknesses. And often we learn that what we thought were our weaknesses are really our strengths.
"Life is always changing; we are always changing. We live in a river of change, and a river of change lives within us. Every day we’re given a choice: We can relax and float in the direction that the water flows, or we can swim hard against it. If we resist the river, we will feel rankled and tired as we tread water, stuck in the same place. If we go with the river, the energy of a thousand mountain streams will be with us, filling our hearts with courage and enthusiasm."
—Elizabeth Lesser, from Broken Open