11/11/2015 0 Comments
A Question of Responsibility
On Saturday, I got triggered by a tenant in the building I manage. Another building’s big garbage bin was being moved. I was trying to listen to something so the noise annoyed, but when I realized what it was I got really angry. She was doing it again. My tenant keeps moving the garbage bin that belongs to the building behind us. She seems to think it’s in the way or that it will tip over. But it’s not and it won’t or at least it hasn’t. A couple of weeks ago she pulled it back and then the garbage didn’t get picked up. She had to call the city to come back and get it. Why does she think any of this is her responsibility?
Then I realized I was taking responsibility for her. Why should I care what she does? I do manage the building, but if she’s going to interfere with another building’s garbage bin, why do I care?
I had to walk that one out. I needed to walk off the anger and walking helps me think.
Last week I had a big awakening around how I let others treat me. Well in this situation it seemed that my vague boundaries also cause me to take responsibility for too much. Just like it’s not the tenant’s job to take care of the neighbor’s garbage, it’s not my job to monitor my tenant. So I closed the door, took a deep breath and let it go.
I’m thinking some of my control issues stem from my lack of strong boundaries. When I’m clear what’s in my jurisdiction, so to speak, I can relax. My tenant’s actions, at least regarding the neighbor’s garbage, are not my responsibility. If she hurt herself doing it, I could respond by helping her. It is a choice, but for me taking that kind of responsibility is a part of being interrelated as living beings. We help one another when we can.
We all have responsibilities. We sometimes think of that as a bad word and don’t want to take responsibility for anything. When we give up responsibility, we give up our power. They are intertwined.
Reminder to self: Don’t abdicate responsibility, but know where your responsibilities lie.
11/4/2015 0 Comments
A Question of Value
You are much deeper, much broader, much brighter than any idea you could have of yourself. ~Harry Palmer
That’s a tough question. Do I value myself?
I’d have to say there a many times I do not. Every time I say yes when I really want to say no. Every time I don’t charge enough for my editing or writing services. Every time I concede a point I feel strongly about. And what about when I don’t feel valued by someone? Does this stem from me valuing myself so little? I think it does.
I was going to go more into value, but I feel called to talk about something else. It’s probably related. It has to do with my rebirthing process. I’m still in gestation mode. I’d like to think I was at the beginning of the next stage, but I don’t think so. Yesterday I went into a complete overwhelm/procrastination meltdown because I had too much on my plate. That tells me I need to slow down again. I’d revved up recently, but it doesn’t feel right.
I’d also forgotten that this rebirth process isn’t just about my business/career. It’s really about every aspect of my life. This is my growing up process that I missed out on as a teen. Health, finances, relationships, it seems everywhere I turn something is in major flux. Of course, this is because I am changing and growing in a big way. And I’m sure I’m making it worse by resisting. I know I’m an avoider, and so when I realized that and decided to release it, it got bigger.
Let’s take this back to a question of value. If I valued myself, what would I do?
I’d make my life simpler.
I’d slow down.
I’d make time for meditation, reading and just plain rest.
I feel myself relaxing as I write these words. There are projects I have to do, but I don’t have to rush around marketing and being seen. I can create a simple marketing plan and stick to it. I can be more focused and just let the rest go. As I rest and let my true self and what I have to offer emerge, eventually I’ll be clear on how I can ultimately serve. For now I’m an editor, writer and card reader. Nothing complicated. All things I enjoy.
I place value on this work. The work I’m doing right now as I write. I’m not sure where it will lead, but I value it. And I value you. My hope is that you’ll value you, too.
"Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones."
--Thich Nhat Hanh
One of the things I’m working on is to not catastrophize. It’s a mindset in which you take a current situation and give it a negative spin or you anticipate all the things that are going to go wrong in the future. I tend towards the future oriented way of expressing this mindset. I can see dozens of different possible outcomes…mostly negative.
It’s not a fun way to live. But I’ve become more aware of it recently, and so I can now heal it. I can notice when I do it and stop it. The more often I notice it, the more often I’ll have an opportunity to get creative and see some positive outcomes. And maybe I don’t have to spend so much time in the future anyway. Maybe I can just notice, stop, breathe and be in the present moment.
There is much healing going on for me right now with lots of stuff coming to the surface so I can heal it. Through all of this I have to remind myself that healing is really just a revealing of the wholeness that is within me always. It’s easy to get caught up in thinking there are things wrong with me, even when I don’t use that language. Just being in “fix-it mode” is being in the mindset that there is something to fix.
This spiritual path is like walking two paths at once, the path of being human and the path of being Divine. Or maybe it’s like walking a beam between the two and we learn to navigate it by being in balance. One of the ways I do that is by using the spiritual tools I’ve learned over the years. Mindfulness meditation is great for this as are affirmations and affirmative prayer. Affirmative prayer focuses on a positive outcome rather than a negative situation.
I’m grateful to be on this path and am enjoying the journey more often now. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
If you’d like to know more about the spiritual tools I use or would just like to talk, you can contact me here.
10/21/2015 0 Comments
Delving Into the Deep
I’m changing the focus of this blog. It used to be a place where you could find tips to help you build and live your life. There are hundreds of blogs and e-zines out there that give you that kind of information. And I plan to write for some of them.
But here, I want to do something else.
Right now I’m in the midst of a rebirth process or what Elizabeth Lesser calls the Phoenix Process. What does this mean? Well, it means I’m in the process of waiting and letting go of the old me. As I get clear in a particular area I do a little rebuilding. But mainly it’s living in uncertainty about what it is I want to do with this business and with my life. As I say on my Home page, most people will tell you about the bad times and then say how great everything is now. Some will actually walk you through a process they created out of what they went through, but that’s a refined process and not the raw experience. And it’s their process, not necessarily one that will work for you.
Lately I’ve come across a couple of people like Elizabeth Lesser who may have some guidelines for their process, but also share the long involved rawness of their story. They use their story to model for the rest of us what this rebirth thing looks and feels like. Brené Brown speaks about this in her latest book Rising Strong.
So, what I’m attempting here is to share my story, my process as it happens. This is just as much for me as it is for you. I’m hoping this will keep me awake and motivated to keep going. I’m hoping it won’t make me stay at the surface. I’m not one to share all and I will be selective, but I also know that I must go deep. I must truly allow myself to be in the underworld to learn as much as I can about myself so I have the tools to return reborn.
I hope by doing this you’ll be encouraged to allow your own Phoenix or rebirth process to unfold. It’s so important to honor the dark nights as well as the brilliant days. By going deep we can bring forth our strengths and learn to accept our weaknesses. And often we learn that what we thought were our weaknesses are really our strengths.
"Life is always changing; we are always changing. We live in a river of change, and a river of change lives within us. Every day we’re given a choice: We can relax and float in the direction that the water flows, or we can swim hard against it. If we resist the river, we will feel rankled and tired as we tread water, stuck in the same place. If we go with the river, the energy of a thousand mountain streams will be with us, filling our hearts with courage and enthusiasm."
8/5/2015 0 Comments
Daydream VS Envision
“I live not in dreams but in contemplation of a reality that is perhaps the future.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke
It’s easy to get lost in a daydream. Well, it’s easy for me. I used to daydream a lot about some distant future. Often it was of living on an estate surrounded by all that I had ever wanted. It felt impossible, but I liked to dream.
Now, I believe that all is possible and that we can and do make dreams come true, but it’s not by being in a state of wanting or wishing. We do it when we intend and know that all that we dream of is here now. Though I like Rilke’s quote, his “perhaps” isn’t quite what is needed to create. It’s a sureness and then a willingness to let it unfold.
About a week ago I was looking at a water damaged wall in our bathroom. The landlord had mentioned that he would get it taken care of months ago. We’ve been so busy we hadn’t reminded him as he tends to forget. But that day I just knew it would be taken care of and could see it fixed. Then I let it go and didn’t think of it again. I just knew it would unfold as it needed to. I was busy and went about my tasks.
Two days ago, the landlord came by to pick up the rent and mentioned the damaged wall. He hadn’t mentioned it in months and now he said he had thought about it recently and wanted to get it taken care of. Today the contractor came and looked to give him an estimate. It will be fixed in the next two weeks.
This isn’t about some large item or my dream, but because of that it was easy to manifest. Sometimes when it’s something we really want, we get scared. We wonder if it is possible or if we deserve it so we fall into daydream.
When we daydream we distance ourselves from our dream. Think about the subjects of your daydreams. I find it’s often things that I wish I could have but am afraid to really believe as a possibility.
What can we do instead?
We can envision what we would like to have or experience. The definition of envision is to imagine as a future possibility. There is a sense that something is possible. Both daydreaming and envisioning can look the same, but to envision is to intentionally imagine something and know that it is possible. The creation process goes one step further. To know something is possible is just the beginning. When you envision it’s necessary to know it as true now.
So how do you get from daydreaming, to envisioning and finally to sureness that it is so now?
You’ve probably been daydreaming about the perfect house, your soulmate, a successful business or something else. All of these are big dreams that can put many of us on guard. When you think of this big dream you may not be sure it’s even possible based on where you are now. Maybe you don’t think you even deserve something so wonderful and so you distance yourself from it by daydreaming about it. At a safe distance you don’t have to question your feelings of unworthiness or overwhelm of how to even get it.
The key is to face those feelings of unworthiness or impossibility and overwhelm. Make a list of reasons why you don’t think it’s possible and soon you’ll see if you’re just overwhelmed by how big the dream is or if you feel unworthy. Maybe it’s a bit of both.
Once you know what’s stopping you from believing in the possibility of your dream you can address it. If it’s overwhelm, you’re worrying about the how. It’s not your job to think about how you’ll make your business successful or how you’ll meet your soulmate. You just have to believe it’s possible and when you do it’s easier to envision it as if it is true now.
Once you set your intentions, envision what you want in a way that feels as if it is so now and then just allow it, you’ll be guided to take the actions needed. The how is the unfolding that you allow.
If you think something is possible, but don’t think you deserve it because you were told as a child that it was wrong to want so much or that you were unworthy of anything good, then you need to build your self-worth. You can do this by listing all the ways these things aren’t true. Then you can write about all your amazing qualities. Also take a look around and see you are no more worthy or unworthy than anyone else that has the kind of life you want. We are all perfectly imperfect humans and here to express our souls, our dreams.
Once you’ve convinced yourself that you’re worthy and or that it is possible you can begin to envision your dream as mentioned above. In both cases it’s important to truly feel what it is like to experience the dream, but when you have felt unworthy it’s important to boost your envisioning with feelings of worthiness. You can do this by knowing that you are made of that creative energy that creates all. There is no separation between you and the Divine. There is no separation between you and your dream.
You are a powerful creator and deserve to live your dreams. Know this and live from a place of allowing all that you dream to flow through you. The Divine is a great field of potentiality, which means that all is possible. You’re here and you’re a walking miracle. That shows just how much is possible. So dream big, know all is possible, know that you are worthy and allow it to unfold.
Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.
– Langston Hughes
You ignored your dreams for so long that they seem like distant memories. Now, when you think about them, there isn’t as much energy as there once was.
This is what happens when we neglect our dreams. And it’s not only our dreams that become distant. We distance ourselves from our souls when we ignore our purpose and callings.
If you want to live your dreams now, you’re going to have to make yourself attractive to them.
You may be wondering what the heck that means. I thought it was strange when the phrase first came to me, too. But now I know it means that you’re going to have to court your dreams and your soul. You’re going to have to begin to think of those dreams as if they are that special someone.
The first thing we often do to make ourselves attractive to a potential mate is to dress up and make ourselves look nice. But what do you find truly attractive in someone? What pulls you in? Is it things like they listen to you, respect you and make you feel important to them? Well, that’s what your dreams need from you. This is how you make yourself attractive to your dream.
This encompasses the following. By showing your dreams that you honor them, they’ll begin to awaken in you again.
Take time to meditate or simply go within and just listen to yourself, your soul and see what it is that you really want. If you’ve been ignoring your dreams, you may find there are other parts of yourself you’ve been ignoring. Self-awareness is the key to making your dreams come true. Now is the time to really get to know yourself. It will make the work easier in the long run.
Make your dreams feel important
Make space in your life for your dreams. Give them support. Create a calendar devoted to the time you will spend on your dreams. Engage in goal setting. Set up a daily, monthly and yearly plan. Keep a journal to help you understand the process of developing your dreams. Create a ritual to honor them and set up an altar to remind you of why you want to live your dreams.
Ask your dream what it wants
This is similar to listening, but it really has more to do with the specific dream rather than listening to your general desires. This can include meditation and contemplation on your dream or visioning to get in touch with it and to get some next steps.
Protect Your Dreams
When you first start to work with your dreams again, you and they will be vulnerable to negative feedback. So be sure to only share with those who are supportive. It’s also important to not over share, which can zap the creative flow. You need time to build the relationship again and to enjoy the honeymoon period where ideas will come fast and furious. This incubation stage is very important in the process of becoming a doer of your dreams.
I want to give a shout-out to my coach Diane Pauley who has been a great support and whose ideas about attracting clients inspired this idea.
The time to relax is when you don't have time for it.
~Attributed to both Jim Goodwin and Sydney J. Harris
Lately you feel stuck in neutral. Little is going right with your work or your life. In fact you feel that there is every indication that you should quit your job, give up your business or just plain move out of town.
What’s going on?
When you feel like this and you just can’t think of what to do next, it’s time to relax.
You may think that’s the last thing you need to do. Don’t you have to get business rolling again, keep up with work and simply get planted and grind?
No. Not just yet. And I never think you have to grind. That’s the wrong energy to engage if you want to enjoy life. And if you knew what your next step was you would have taken it by now.
So when you don’t know what to do, you need to relax, let go and just be. Be in the moment and find some beauty or joy in it. Do what helps you release the tension around the issue and bring to it a light focus.
What I mean by a light focus is that kind of focus you get when you’re just lying on the beach watching the waves roll in and out. You’re not attached to any particular thoughts or to what you’re paying attention to. There is a sense of openness. This is where you want to gently guide yourself to when you’re upset about something and would like some answers.
The thing is the answers you seek are within you and within the situation, no matter how challenging it may seem. When we can’t see the answers or the next step, we begin to panic and it’s that tension that blocks us to the guidance we need.
The next time you find yourself spinning your wheels and unsure about what to do, take a few deep breaths, stop thinking about the situation and find a way to relax. The answers you need will come to you. Don’t rush the process. Rushing is tension.
But you can exercise rigorously for a few minutes, which will make you forget what you were thinking about and you’ll feel relaxed when you stop.
Once you are relaxed there a few things you can do to help yourself along.
Make a pros and cons list
This is to engage your left brain. Sometimes it helps to take a simple approach. Take each of your options and create a list of the things you like about them and the things you don’t like. See which one wins out.
Check in with your body
Get comfortable and think about one of your options. Notice if there is any part of you that tenses or relaxes when you think about it. You’ll know if it’s a good feeling or not.
Write it out
This works best if you’re trying to decide on a situation. For instance, if you need to know which job to take or what kind of coaching you want to do, write about what a day doing that work would look and feel like to you. When you put something down on paper it allows you to get enough distance to see what’s really there.
In the long run, it doesn’t really matter what you choose because you can always make another choice. You may do all the things mentioned above and still not be sure. Sometimes it’s better to just make a decision and go with it. Any one will do. It’s in the movement that you’ll then find out if it was the right one for you.
In the dim background of our mind, we know what we ought to be doing but somehow we
You’ve made what seems like a hundred false starts and you feel like you’ll never be able to make a living doing what you love.
Whether you want to start your own business or change careers, you find that you just don’t know where to begin anymore and the advice to just start rings hollow in your ears.
So now what?
Well, it is possible to do this. I’m living proof. I spent years spinning my wheels and getting nowhere fast. Now I’m in the flow of forward motion. I’m scared and there are days I want to run and hide, but I don’t. I keep moving. That’s key. To keep moving. It’s so much harder to start again and again.
So let me share with you the things you need to do before you get started. Our starts often don’t work because we haven’t laid the ground work.
Free Up Time and Energy
If you’re anything like me, you’ve said yes to too many projects and volunteer opportunities. Or maybe you have children or other family members to look after. All are important, but so are you. You need to make room in your life for your dreams. Even if it’s 15 minutes a day to start. And the way to do this is take away as many excuses as possible.
Since the beginning of this year I’ve been slowly finding others who could take over some of my volunteer duties. I’m still working on clearing my path to make room for the time and energy I need to build my business, but I have freed up quite a bit of it.
What can you clear from your schedule? Can you get a babysitter for an hour? Is it possible to drop one activity from your child’s schedule? Do you have to volunteer for three things at once? Can a family member cook or do laundry?
Talk to Your Family and Friends
Let the people in your life know what you’re up to. Tell them about your hopes and dreams if you think it’s safe to do so. It’s important to only share with those who will support you because in the beginning it’s challenging enough without bad vibes to throw you off track.
You do this to get support. You need the cheerleaders and accountability as well as the physical help for the things mentioned above. No one lives up to their greatness without help. Get the help you need and the best place to start is at home.
Get Professional Support
Now maybe you can’t afford a business or life coach, but start thinking about it. If you can’t hire someone just yet, then start to surround yourself with people who are working towards similar goals or are doing what you want to do. Find a mentor and or join an accountability group.
This is so important. It can make all the difference as you move along your path.
Make Sure Your Dream Sets You on Fire
Sometimes we’ve been dreaming for so long about something that we don’t realize our feelings have changed.
Maybe you’ve dreamed of being a reporter and winning the Pulitzer. But when you start to move in that direction you find that you’re not fired up about it so much anymore. We change and so do our dreams.
I believe our life purpose is something broader than being a reporter or doctor or coach. It’s an overarching theme that we’ve been living all along. See my blog 5 Ways to Discover or Get Clear on Your Calling and do some work on getting clear on what it is you really want to do to express your life purpose. You’ll need the fire of doing something you absolutely love to keep going.
When you are actually ready to make your start, here are a couple of things to keep in mind:
Begin with Something You Love
I think it’s important to build a strong foundation, but those tasks may bore you. If you’re starting a business you need to do some market research. If you’re changing careers you may need to go back to school. Some of these things you may love and some you may not. Make the first thing you do something that fires you up, something that is at the heart of your dream.
If you do something that makes you feel like you’re already living your dream, you will feel motivated to keep going.
Often the reason you don’t start is because you are overwhelmed by a long list of tasks. Pick something you love, like mentioned above, and then put away the rest of the list for now.
Take your one task and break it down into steps and make a plan. Plan to do one step in that hour you freed up by hiring a babysitter or by getting a family member to do the laundry. When you’ve completed that first step of a single task, make a plan for when you’ll do the next step and then celebrate.
Once you’ve begun keep going by keeping it simple. You’ll get there as long as you keep moving forward.
“To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work.”
― Mary Oliver
You know how it is when you’ve got 10 things to do and then find yourself distracted by Facebook or Twitter. After an hour goes by you kick yourself for wasting time and then spend the next 20 minutes trying to figure out which task to tackle. And the thing is you’ve even done some study of time management. WTH!
Why do we let our attention get hijacked by all those things that won’t get us closer to accomplishing our goals?
Sometimes it’s procrastination brought on by fear of failure or success. Sometimes we’re tired. And sometimes we’re just so overwhelmed that it’s easier to goof off than try to get through our long list of things to do.
No matter what reason we have for getting distracted, we can always bring our attention back to the present moment. With practice we can become aware that we’re distracted and leave Facebook after only a few minutes instead of wasting a whole hour or two.
Our mind likes to think and jump all over the place sometimes. That’s okay. Paying attention isn’t about being able to stay on task so much as it’s about being able to come back to the task after being pulled away.
What I just described is mindfulness. I practice mindfulness meditation most days and have learned to carry the practice into my everyday life. I practice staying aware of where my attention is and then placing it where I want it.
So don’t get mad at yourself for getting distracted. Instead, practice coming back to the task at hand and continue. No judgement, just return.
And if you find yourself getting angry that you got distracted or you became aware that your attention was averted for a long time, acknowledge your anger, don’t repress it. Just notice. Usually awareness takes the sting out of feelings. Accept the anger as a part of you. Let it be heard. Write down how you’re feeling even to help you get some distance from it.
At some point you’ll notice that a part of you is watching the whole process. Put your attention there. This observer is your higher self. Let it guide you.
Success is in the practice of paying attention and in the willingness to stay open to what is right in front of you.
If you’d like to learn about and practice mindfulness meditation, I recommend joining Susan Piver’s Open Heart Project. She’s a wonderful teacher and the practice will help you live a more meaningful and successful life.
There is something that you feel is yours to do in the world. It feels like it’s so close and yet so far. It’s not easy to grasp for some of us. And you can have more than one calling in a lifetime.
Why is it that some people are born knowing what they are here to do and others seem to always be searching?
I think it’s because some callings have a ready form to fit into and some don’t.
For instance, my step-son seems to have always known he was a musician and specifically a guitarist. He had fine motor skills as a baby and when he finally got a guitar in his hand at 12 he was off and running. He’s a death metal guitarist with his own band and they have four albums to date.
Some of us have a calling that doesn’t have a ready-made mold or one that is rather nebulous. And some of us have to create the mold which can cause confusion and difficulty in pinning it down.
To add to the confusion a calling is often bigger than simply expressing as a musician, minister or life coach. Someone called to heal could be a doctor, minister, herbalist, Reiki Master, life coach, etc.
For instance, I feel called to empower and inspire people. I’ve tried on many hats in which I did these things, but it wasn’t until recently I finally found one that fit.
There have always been clues, though. I just happened to be a little slow at actually following my intuition since I have a strong connection to my logical brain. But my intuition is hearty and wouldn’t let me ignore it forever.
To help you move through the confusion here are some ways to gain clarity on your calling.
Revisit your childhood
I think this is one the best ways to gain clarity on your calling. Our childhoods are rich with clues.
Get a pen and paper and start writing about all the things you loved to do as a child. And I mean loved to do. You’re going to use that blissful feeling to help you get clear on your calling.
This needs to done as if you’re writing an essay or story. Just writing a list can stunt the process of gaining access to all the nuances, feelings and little clues that are in your memory.
Once you have written a couple of pages, you can create a list to help you see any patterns. Often one will emerge.
Now ask yourself if you still do any of these things. Think hard on this because you may still do them, but in a slightly different form. If you don’t, ask yourself why that is.
With one or a few things now brought forth from your memory see if there is a pattern or if the one thing is specific see if it applies to an overarching theme.
For instance, I remember that I enjoyed making up stories with my dolls and later I wrote them in my head and on paper, I loved to learn and pretend I was in school as both teacher and student, and I was endlessly curious about the spiritual world.
Telling stories was a way to understand the world as well as inspire and empower others. Playing school was a way to learn more and empower others by teaching them what I learned. My curiosity about the spiritual world was about learning so I could tell people about it. I always wanted to learn and then teach. My calling is to inspire and empower.
Explore your life now
Some people have a hard time digging around in their past. You don’t have to go there in order to discover or get clear on your calling. You can look at the present and see the clues.
This is kind of like the exercise above except you stick to what you do now. It’s okay to go back to 10 years ago when you used to hike or bike or did something that you loved, but for some reason no longer do.
Again write it as an essay or story. This time think of those things that truly put you in the flow.
Flow is a mental state of pure concentration in the moment on what you’re doing. It’s happiness in action. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a professor of psychology and management, created the notion of flow. You’ve probably felt it when doing something so well that you seemed to do it effortlessly and lost track of time.
Pull from your story or essay those things where you get in the flow.
What patterns do you see? What stands out? Do you see an overarching theme?
Your calling is something that puts you in the flow, makes you happy and is something you would do even if you never got paid. In fact you’re probably doing it at the higher theme level now even if you don’t think you know your calling. It’s just harder to pinpoint at that level.
Do a visioning
Visioning is not about experiencing an inner picture of what you would like. Visioning is a process of going within and surrendering to what the highest outcome is to be for yourself or any project. It’s being open to Spirit and the messages that come through.
These messages can be in the form of words, phrases, images or feelings. You then take what you receive and see how it can be implemented in your life.
You do this process by getting centered and ready to receive. Then you answer four key questions:
Receive answers to each question individually letting what needs to come through to come through. Stop and go to your receptive mode in between each question.
Once finished, take time to contemplate your answers until you see how you may implement.
Take a typology test
Aptitude tests or typology tests like the Myers Briggs certainly don’t tell you exactly what you’re capable of, but they can help you see patterns and give you some ideas. Only take from it what resonates.
Take the Myers Briggs test here.
Visit the future
Do a self-guided meditation where you imagine your life 10 years from now. The distance from the present will allow your mind to move into daydream or pretend mode where you’re freer to let loose.
This envisioning process has a little bit of the message from Spirit that visioning does as well as your own ideas and feelings. Of course, when we’re in alignment, these two are the same.
All of these processes will bring your calling further into the light. Sometimes you’ll have that A-ha! moment and sometimes you’ll need more time to ruminate. Talking with someone who can be objective can help you get clear faster. And doing more than one of these can help, too.
Let me know what you come up with. If you get stuck, feel free to contact me for a free Heart-to-heart session. No strings attached.
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