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9/25/2017 0 Comments Hustle is the Opposite of Heart Hustle is the opposite of heart.
~ Shauna Niequist According to new research by Brendon Burchard and his team, high performing individuals don’t identify with the words hustle and grind. They don’t buy into the idea that you should never be satisfied. The three things he says they do identify with are: full engagement, joy and confidence. They don’t strive, they get satisfied. You can read more in his book, High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way. Last week a convergence of ideas came into my awareness. The quote above by Shauna Niequist struck a chord and then I saw an interview on Marie TV with Brendon Burchard. For a long time I’ve been saying that hustle isn’t the way. Following your heart is the way. I would call things like full engagement, joy and confidence states of the heart. The quote and hearing Burchard speak feel like a confirmation of my work. The heart matters. And not only does it matter, it’s central. Hustle is a bad word. By definition it is all about force. As a noun it means to swindle. To me, the word screams lack of integrity. That may not be your intent, but words have power. What are you doing to yourself when you hustle, to your family and friends? How can you remain whole when you’re so busy there is no time to know what’s in your heart? Obviously high performing people are that way because they do what they love, what brings them joy and in doing that gain confidence. It seems so simple. Just do what you love. But what if you don’t know what that is after years of hustling for someone else’s dreams? There is a way to discover your heart’s desire, live a life you love and be high performing. You must slow down and follow the other four of what I call the 5 Ss of Heart Centered Living. They are interconnected, but it helps me to break them down. Slow There is so much to do. How can you go slow and get everything done? By slowing down your brain can relax. A relaxed brain is a more productive brain. It’s also a quieter brain. Now you can hear what’s in your heart. When you slow down, you can take in more information. In our high speed world we tend to rush past that beautiful rose bush or barely glance at a magnificent sunset. And it’s not just beauty we miss, beauty that enriches our world I might add, we may miss an important detail that would help us solve a problem or create a new program. We can also tap into the subconscious more easily which is the powerhouse of our creativity. Rushing to find an answer often leads us to miss out on a better one if we just gave it time. When we rush around we’re probably also missing the details of our lives like our spouse trying to share a painful moment in their day. Too busy to hear, we don’t give our full attention and so alienate those we love. The heart needs a slower pace than our brains. It doesn’t hustle. It’s the organ of our soul and the soul is here to experience life fully. Steady Once you slow down it’s easier to stay steady. By steady I mean a gentle persistence that is consistent. You don’t give up when it’s difficult and you show up every day. You will be able to accomplish all you need to do and you’ll do it with ease and grace. This allows for full engagement that high performers value. Now this isn’t about being unforgiving in your approach. The key is to be gentle with yourself when you drift off track. Stay in the heart. There will be times you become inconsistent and not feel up to persisting because life will sometimes get complicated and you’ll fall into old patterns or get caught up in the rush of the 24/7 world. It’s a practice. Just keep coming back to the slowness and begin again. Simple It’s so important to keep things simple in order to help you stay steady. Simplify your routine. Declutter your space. The spaciousness created keeps you from feeling rushed. And again, when you don’t feel rushed you can more easily know what’s in your heart. Simplify by getting focused. Most of the things we do are not contributing to our success. Discover those things that bring your closer to your goals and make those the first things you do. Spacious Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. ~ Viktor E. Frank Creating space in your life allows you to breathe. It’s connected to slowing down, but there is more to it. It’s more than just doing less and clearing out your living space. The most cluttered space we have is our mind. I haven’t mentioned meditation yet, but it can help to declutter your mind, slow down, stay steady and keep things simple. The reason I didn’t mention it earlier is because before you understood the program, you probably would have said you didn’t have time for it. Keep your practice simple. All you need is 12 minutes a day. There is a study by psychologist Dr. Amishi Jha that says 12 minutes is the minimum time you need in order to receive benefits. But you don’t have to start there if you’re new to it. Begin with three minutes and build up. And be gentle with yourself if you miss a day or two. The point of all of this is to live life from the heart and be kind to yourself. I practice Shamatha meditation. Shamatha means peacefully abiding and is about becoming familiar with your mind and ultimately your heart. It trains you to become more mindful and to keep coming back to the present. A daily practice translates into helping you become more present in your daily life. Small Break it down. Take baby steps towards your goals. It’s important to have a greater vision and to remind yourself of it daily, but if you don’t break it down, your vision may simply remain a pie in the sky. Remember, don’t hit the ground running as your bring yourself down to earth. Keep the other practices in mind. They are all connected. Break each vision down into smaller goals and then break each goal into small, easy to do steps. Keep your vision big and take small steps towards it. Keeping it small keeps you from working yourself up into a state of overwhelm, which can lead to rushing and getting lost in your head. The heart is where you want to be. Small, simple steps keep you steady, create space and allow life to move at a slower pace. The 5 Ss are truly all connected. Living them will allow your life to flow with more ease and grace, help you leave the hustle behind and live life from the heart. Please join me over on my Facebook page aka the Live Life from the Heart Classroom. Every week we'll delve deeply into the current week's blog and build our lives from the heart.
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 To live from the heart means you need to get clear on what it is you want. Sounds easy enough, right? If you’re anything like me, it hasn’t been.
I’ve been encouraged to put others first. Often, I haven’t even put myself in the equation. Someone asks me to do something and the first thing I hear myself say is yes. Never mind that I don’t really want to, someone needs me and I’m there. I am getting much better at saying no, but what I’m really getting better at is knowing what I want. My no is informed by my heart’s desire and so is my yes. For the longest time I didn’t differentiate my wants from someone else’s. Being an empath can confuse things. But I also have codependent tendencies. I want to control my environment which includes people and their feelings. Not a good way to live so I’m working on it and knowing what’s in my heart has helped immensely. Here are some ways you can get to know your heart better and disentangle your emotions from the wants and needs of others. Disentangle Even with all the work I’ve done on myself, I still find myself wanting to please others or control them. People don’t even have to ask me to do something before I’m jumping in to do it for them. Since this was such an automatic reaction, I found disentangling from my desire to help, please and control was the best place to begin.
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