How to Make Yourself Attractive to Your Dreams

Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.
– Langston Hughes

You ignored your dreams for so long that they seem like distant memories. Now, when you think about them, there isn’t as much energy as there once was.

This is what happens when we neglect our dreams. And it’s not only our dreams that become distant. We distance ourselves from our souls when we ignore our purpose and callings.

If you want to live your dreams now, you’re going to have to make yourself attractive to them.

You may be wondering what the heck that means. I thought it was strange when the phrase first came to me, too. But now I know it means that you’re going to have to court your dreams and your soul. You’re going to have to begin to think of those dreams as if they are that special someone.

The first thing we often do to make ourselves attractive to a potential mate is to dress up and make ourselves look nice. But what do you find truly attractive in someone? What pulls you in? Is it things like they listen to you, respect you and make you feel important to them? Well, that’s what your dreams need from you. This is how you make yourself attractive to your dream.

Respect

This encompasses the following. By showing your dreams that you honor them, they’ll begin to awaken in you again.

Listen

Take time to meditate or simply go within and just listen to yourself, your soul and see what it is that you really want. If you’ve been ignoring your dreams, you may find there are other parts of yourself you’ve been ignoring. Self-awareness is the key to making your dreams come true. Now is the time to really get to know yourself. It will make the work easier in the long run.

Make your dreams feel important

Make space in your life for your dreams. Give them support. Create a calendar devoted to the time you will spend on your dreams. Engage in goal setting. Set up a daily, monthly and yearly plan. Keep a journal to help you understand the process of developing your dreams. Create a ritual to honor them and set up an altar to remind you of why you want to live your dreams.

Ask your dream what it wants

This is similar to listening, but it really has more to do with the specific dream rather than listening to your general desires. This can include meditation and contemplation on your dream or visioning to get in touch with it and to get some next steps.

Protect Your Dreams

When you first start to work with your dreams again, you and they will be vulnerable to negative feedback. So be sure to only share with those who are supportive. It’s also important to not over share, which can zap the creative flow. You need time to build the relationship again and to enjoy the honeymoon period where ideas will come fast and furious. This incubation stage is very important in the process of becoming a doer of your dreams.

I want to give a shout-out to my coach Diane Pauley who has been a great support and whose ideas about attracting clients inspired this idea.